Messy MondAYS

What is it?!

In 2020, I found myself on social media and in the press educating and sharing about my experiences as a Black queer person in America. By the end of the year, I was depleted, and missing joy. Missed telling dick jokes. I am a comedian after all. So in a desperate attempt to lift my spirits, I got on my Instagram story, looked into the camera, and said, “Tell me something good or messy!” I don’t know what I expected, but what I got were some horny ass submissions! Okay?! Baby, the people were famished to talk about sex! And I was so happy to provide a shame-free space to do so!  Every Monday, for almost four years, I’ve reacted to, discussed, and given advice about all things sex, love, and heaux*. Including a blow-job technique that found it’s way to urban dictionary (thanks to the Messy Patrons!)  All of which earned me a title I’m most proud of, Messy Mother! The intention of Messy Mondays is to destroy shame around sex, advocate for our well being, and normalize curiosity, communication, and compassion! With a mix of outrageous reactions to follower submissions, poignant learning moments, and ruckus demonstrations, Messy Mondays dives deep into the good and very messy parts of sex, sexuality, love, and identity. On May 20th, Messy Mondays is expanding into a Substack, where I’ll be creating weekly posts about all things sex + self! I’ll share everything I know, and we’ll learn the rest together!

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